Category - Resources

17
Nov

5 More Ways to Celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month! (Part II)

There are many ways to celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month this November. Here are five more ideas: Cooking for Culture – There is just something about cooking that brings a family together. It’s a great time to try a new recipe that celebrates your family’s diversity. While preparing the meal together make sure to talk ...
7
Nov

Celebrating National Adoption Awareness Month! (Part I)

Every year the month of November is recognized as National Adoption Awareness Month. It’s a time to celebrate all types of adoption and raise awareness for the need for adoption in our world. It’s a time that government, communities, businesses and advocates celebrate adoption as a positive way to build a family. MLJ will be ...
27
Oct

Costumes, Culture, and Adoption

As you are preparing your child’s Halloween costume, for some their first Halloween costume, blackface probably didn’t occur to you as an acceptable part of a costume. Yet, I was shocked to see an adult in blackface last year as part of a Tiger Woods costume. There are so many costumes available in the Fall ...
26
Oct

Fall Celebrations

Halloween is just around the corner! Youngsters prepare in anticipation for the day when they can dress up as ghouls, goblins or princesses and receive an overabundance of sugar filled treats! For many of our families who have adopted children, this will be their first Halloween and these parents can watch as their newly adopted ...
19
Sep

Book Review: Lifebooks: Creating a Treasure for the Adopted Child

In high school and college I was an avid scrapbooker, so when I heard the term “lifebook” for the first time I thought it was just a fancy term for adoptive parent’s scrapbooks. When I inquired more information from friends in my adoptive parents group I quickly learned that it is not a common term ...
31
Aug

How I Will Prepare for My Child’s Arrival

Preparing to welcome an adopted child is an incredible gift, much like preparing to welcome a birthchild. But the waiting is also a challenge, which inevitable questions like, • When will we receive a referral? • How are we going to pay for the adoption AND be able to afford having a child? • Am ...
22
Aug

Six Alternatives to Spanking

The Indiana Department of Child Services mandates that adoptive parents cannot spank adopted children. But is that really the reason that we should not spank our children? Some of those who believe spanking a child is a necessary form of punishment may refer to the Bible for justification. There are several passages in the Bible, ...
25
Jul

How to Raise Money for an Adoption

There are many different ways to alleviate the financial stress of adoption. Here are just a few ideas to get you started on the road to fundraising for you adoption. Garage sales and yard sales – They are a popular way to raise money for adoption. Families can go in together to have larger scale ...
15
Jun

Parental Stress and How It Impacts Adjustment in Adoption

Stress – it’s been a major focus of my career as a mental health therapist. I know the adoption process is stressful (on top of your daily stressors) and we talk about stress management during our adoption preparation classes, but that is barely an intro. When parents become more stressed than normal during the adoption ...
1
Jun

Estate Planning and Your Adopted Child

No one wants to think about bad things happening to their family. But, bad things do happen to good people and it is every parent’s responsibility to plan accordingly. A well thought out estate plan should be in every parent’s toolkit, but there are special considerations for the adoptive parent. Who will take care of ...
31
May

Basic Behavior Management for Adopted Parents

Many parents experience behavioral issues with their children whether they are adopted or biological. Here are some helpful hints for parents interested in resolving particular behavioral issues. Work on only two or three targeted behaviors at a time– Pick a couple of issues that are workable and try to make some headway on those-sometimes you ...
30
Apr

Book Review: Adopt Without Debt

We were excited to receive a review copy of Adopt Without Debt: creative ways to cover the cost of adoption direct from author Julie Gumm. Pre-sales begin May 1st and the book will be released on May 6th, thanks to faster than planned printing. It is definitely a book you will want to consider purchasing ...
11
Apr

Why Is Adoption So Expensive?

We hear this question all the time. It seems logical that when a person wants to adopt and add to their family, the cost to the family should not be $25-40,000 (average international adoption). It seems unreasonable to have high expenses associated with such a loving process. Some find adoption expenses appalling while others come ...
27
Feb

Beyond Rosa and Martin

Deesha Philyaw is a freelance writer and adjunct professor in the Master of Professional Writing Program at Chatham University. She is a black co-parenting mom of two girls, ages 7 and 12, one of whom is adopted, and stepmom of two girls, age 12 and 14. Deesha has written a series of blogs for us ...
24
Feb

Empowered To Connect Conference Recommended

Last September, I had the privilege of attending the Empowered to Connect Conference in Nashville, TN. The conference was full of insights and “ah-ha” moments. Although my daughter had been home for over a year, I had many eye opening moments listening to Dr. Karyn Purvis speak. Dr. Purvis truly understands children who have come ...
20
Feb

Echos of Discrimination

Friday afternoon I attended a special presentation at Ivy Tech by Rose Mapendo, a refugee from Congo, who was named the Humanitarian of the Year by the UN High Commissioner for Refugees in 2009. As a member of the Tutsi tribe, her ethnicity made her family a target for violence, imprisonment, and death in the ...
15
Feb

Hair Care Evolution

I have had basically the same haircut for nearly a decade, yet my hair care, style, and techniques have continued to evolve. I have used home remedies, worked with nature, used a hair dryer to straighten, used a dryer and flat iron (eek), and used different sizes of curling irons. My current Winter routine uses ...
15
Feb

It’s Okay To Be A Token. Really. Part 2

Deesha Philyaw is a freelance writer and adjunct professor in the Master of Professional Writing Program at Chatham University. She is a black co-parenting mom of two girls, ages 7 and 12, one of whom is adopted, and stepmom of two girls, age 12 and 14. Deesha has written a series of blogs for us ...
7
Jan

Communicating Emotionally and the Big Blue Dog Part 2

Please, read the intro to Communicating Emotionally And The Big Blue Dog. Just like the Big Blue Dog, your children will respond to your emotions, but they will not understand your words. If you are stressed about communicating with words, your children will be stressed, or in some cases, try to sooth your stress. If ...
19
Dec

The Value of Support

When my wife and I decided to adopt we had no idea about the roller coaster of emotions, stress and paperwork we were going to be faced with. Fortunately one of the first things we did was find a support group. Having a support group has been the single biggest factor in helping us keep ...
10
Dec

Parenting a Child with HIV

Read the first part of Stephanie’s story Considering Adopting a Child with HIV. Well, no doors closed and we brought that sweet little boy home along with two other boys on April 14, 2010. He was on medicine in Ukraine and remains on those same medications but different dosage today. We have been to see ...
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