Category - Support Services

13
May

Helping Your Adopted Child Learn to Trust

Time is your ally in helping your child build a trusting relationship with you. Most of us are aware of the negative effects that abuse, neglect and abandonment have on a child’s developing brain. Any of these unpleasant life experiences can alter the child’s ability to function in society, socially relate to other people and ...
4
May

Successfully Adopting as a Single Requires Plan for Support

It Takes a Village to Raise a Child. This African proverb is true of raising all children but it is even more crucial for single parents raising children. Parenting is hard. It is often a juggling act and it can be very isolating. As any parent can tell you, parenting is stressful, exhausting, demanding, overwhelming, ...
13
Apr

Survival Behaviors: Lying and Stealing

When prospective adoptive parents talk about how they hope that others will describe their children, “honesty, respect, and trustworthiness” are usually pretty high on the characteristics list. Since these characteristics are so highly valued, behaviors such as lying and stealing can be very difficult and discouraging for parents to handle because parents may feel like ...
18
Mar

8 Tips for Parenting a Parentified Child

When adopting multiple children in a sibling group, often the oldest child—usually a female—appears to have assumed the role as the caregiver for the other children, especially if they have previously been placed together in an orphanage or foster home. Perhaps you have heard the term “parentification.” This occurs when a child is forced, either ...
10
Mar

International Adoption Clinics are a Vital Resource to Adoptive Families

International Adoption Clinics can perhaps be one of the most helpful services to both pre- and post- adoptive parents. Given the many developmental issues, special needs and medical problems an internationally adopted child can potentially exhibit, the staff found in these clinics are well educated, experienced and prepared to help assist you in understanding your ...
26
Feb

Struggle Over Control for Adoptive Children

Kids like to be in control. But, unfortunately, so many things are chosen for a child that they can often feel out of control of their own lives. Children don’t get to choose whether or not they go to school, where they live, or with whom they live. I remember when I was a child ...
23
Feb

Meeting Your Adoptive Child for the First Time

Meeting your adoptive child for the first time might be a magical moment, but it also could be traumatic or disappointing for either or both you and your child. Adoptive parents look forward to this day with intense anticipation, but this anticipation may lead to unrealistic expectations. You are excited, nervous and scared. Remember, your ...
28
Jan

Five Things to Consider When Adopting Multiples

The numbers of children waiting to be adopted internationally are high. In 2011, UNICEF estimated there were 153 million orphans. Many of these children are older or are part of sibling groups which can often create barriers to them being adopted into loving homes capable of providing the love, structure, guidance, and nurturing that they ...
26
Jan

Communicating Through the Language Barrier

When adopting a child internationally parents often struggle in the beginning with how to communicate with their children when they don’t speak their language. The language barrier definitely makes parents think outside the box when it comes to how to communicate with their children, but a language barrier can actually be a positive thing in ...
17
Dec

How to Help Your Child Through the Holidays

Holidays, while a time to be joyful and celebrate, can be an emotionally difficult time for children who have been adopted. Nora Sharp of A Family for Every Child provides some suggestions for helping your child get through the holiday season. First and foremost, try and understand your child’s feelings. This may be difficult especially if ...
11
Dec

S-T-R-E-S-S: THE UNWANTED HOLIDAY GIFT

The December holiday season is always described as “the most wonderful time of the year.” Certainly, the beauty of glittering decorations, festively adorned Christmas trees, brightly lit Menorahs, and the harmonious sound of holiday carols can bring a smile to the most fearsome Scrooge. But sometimes, underneath the gilded décor and cheerfully wrapped gifts, holiday ...
10
Nov

How to Share Thanksgiving With Your Adoptive Child

Thanksgiving is almost here!  It has always been one of my favorite holidays due to the time honored traditions, celebrating with family and, of course, the amazing meal. Thanksgiving is also an opportune time to “welcome” your internationally adopted child(ren) to our American customs surrounding this special day in November by  teaching them a bit ...
27
Oct

Post Adoption Services for Your Family

It is very common for adoptive families to need supportive services after an adoption is finalized. Often, when a child is adopted, they may have some identified needs but more often, unidentified or unknown needs can develop later in the adoption process which require specialized skills and services to adequately address. Post Adoption Services (PAS)  ...
14
Oct

MLJ Adoptions Welcomes New Director of Social Services

MLJ Adoptions is thrilled to announce the arrival of our new Director of Social Services, Karlene Edgemon! Karlene’s large and vibrant family instilled in her an enthusiasm for helping all families become successful and healthy. She attended the University of Tennessee where she earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology, also studying Sociology and ...
29
Sep

What to Expect During Your Home Study Process

Whether adoptive parents are seeking to adopt a child internationally or domestically, families must complete a home study. The home study process can seem daunting but, in fact, it is nothing to fear. A home study is needed in adoption, whether you are adopting internationally or domestically and is a snapshot of you, your spouse ...
17
Sep

Why Spanking is Not Effective for an Adopted Child

The topic of spanking has been debated for decades, with arguments surfacing such as, “I was spanked and turned out just fine” and the ever popular “but if I spank him the first time, he’ll know not to do it again.” Spanking is a physical means to address inappropriate behavior and it may actually stop ...
2
Sep

How to Handle Your Adoptive Child’s Indiscriminate Affection

Adoptive parents sometimes struggle with their adoptive child acting too familiar or even affectionate with strangers. While many children who have a secure attachment have a good sense of boundaries and take social cues from their parents, children raised in institutions may have no sense of personal space and show affection indiscriminately. Indiscriminate affection describes ...
20
Aug

Eight Attachment Techniques to Use with Your Adopted Child

Your child is home, but you may not feel like an instant family. Nora Sharp of A Family for Every Child discusses forming a bond with your adopted child, providing practical tools and tips that you can use in developing a bond with your child. Many adoptive parents are shocked and a little concerned when ...
29
Jul

Appropriate Discipline is an Opportunity to Encourage

Public shaming or public humiliation is on the forefront these days as a possible use of punishment for children. We have seen this age old use of discipline being implemented on children now in public locales as well as on the internet. As a use of punishment, this is the act of embarrassing the child or ...
18
Jun

Five Reasons to Attend an Adoption Support Group

The adoption process can be stressful and overwhelming for adoptive parents and it is important for parents to have a good support group. Naturally our support groups tend to be comprised of our close family and friends, but often within that group there may not be many people familiar with adoption. They may not be ...
14
May

10 Options for “Anytime Food”

Client question: What are good foods to have as “anytime food”? “Anytime food” is simply food that can be eaten at any time. When children have experienced food scarcity, it is important for anxiety, growth, and attachment in most cases for food to be consistent and available at all times. Remember, food is the most basic ...
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