Category - Support Services


Eight Attachment Techniques to Use with Your Adopted Child

Your child is home, but you may not feel like an instant family. Nora Sharp of A Family for Every Child discusses forming a bond with your adopted child, providing practical tools and tips that you can use in developing a bond with your child. Many adoptive parents are shocked and a little concerned when ...

Appropriate Discipline is an Opportunity to Encourage

Public shaming or public humiliation is on the forefront these days as a possible use of punishment for children. We have seen this age old use of discipline being implemented on children now in public locales as well as on the internet. As a use of punishment, this is the act of embarrassing the child or ...

Five Reasons to Attend an Adoption Support Group

The adoption process can be stressful and overwhelming for adoptive parents and it is important for parents to have a good support group. Naturally our support groups tend to be comprised of our close family and friends, but often within that group there may not be many people familiar with adoption. They may not be ...

10 Options for “Anytime Food”

Client question: What are good foods to have as “anytime food”? “Anytime food” is simply food that can be eaten at any time. When children have experienced food scarcity, it is important for anxiety, growth, and attachment in most cases for food to be consistent and available at all times. Remember, food is the most basic ...

Adoptive Children Require Consistent Techniques

Periodically, we use this space to answer client questions that have been submitted to us. Today, Addison Cooper LCSW answers the question, “How long do you try a technique before determining if it’s successful or not?” He writes reviews for adoption-themed movies which can be found here. Have you ever heard that old saying, “The ...

Rejection to Attachment: Why Early Ambivalence is Positive

If you have observed my son with me in the last year, you know he is pretty fond of me. He wants to snuggle every night at bedtime. I can’t leave school without at least one hug and kiss. If he sees me in the building during the day, that happens again; he can’t just ...

Adoptive Grandparent Shares His Irish Heritage

According to the US Census Bureau, 36.9 million Americans (more than 1 out of every 9) claimed Irish ancestry in the 2009 American Community Survey . But, of course, on St. Patrick’s Day everybody claims to be Irish. For years I have been a lover of all things Irish and Scottish, and have traced much ...

Nurture Group: What is it and How Does it Work?

Are you looking for a new way to bond with your child? A way to help your family to learn to knit together when things aren’t going as well as you had planned? One possibility is to utilize the “Nurture Group” developed for TBRI®. What is a nurture group? It is a way to have ...

IDEAL Response: Correcting Difficult Behaviors the TBRI® Way

As Dr. Purvis would say, internationally adopted children come from hard places. These children are not in need of families because of happy circumstance or an ideal upbringing. Even when adopted at a young age, these children have experienced trauma that impacts their development for life. Dr. Purvis categorizes the type of trauma experienced by ...

The Dangers of Taking Your Time with a Home Study

I know what you’re thinking when you read the title of this blog. “Me, taking my time, on what? The adoption process is so long. I feel like I’m the one always waiting on others.” But, there are quite a few of us that still seem to drag our feet when we hear the first ...

Consequences of a Lost Referral

A referral or match with a child in international adoption can be lost or withdrawn for a number of reasons. Some reasons for a lost referral could be that a family member decided to parent the child, the child cannot be deemed legally abandoned, or the child is too ill to travel. As families begin ...

Pro-active Parenting

Parenting is not about being the “perfect parent,” there is no such thing, and it’s not about turning your child into the “perfect child,” because again, there is no such thing. Parenting is about being in a relationship with your child and navigating the world with them. Parenting is providing support and nurture. Parenting is ...

TBRI® Overview Of Correcting Principles

We are nearing the end of our TBRI® Tuesday series, following up Connecting Principles and Empowering Principles with Correcting principles. TBRI® purposely puts Correcting at the end of the series because learning is grounded in relationship and parents must know how to return the interaction to a connected relationship. Within the Correcting Principles, there are ...

Q & A What to Pack to Ease a Child’s Adjustment to Adoptive Home

Q: Do you have any suggestions for items to bring from our home that other families have found helpful in easing their child’s transition to home? A: Easing a child’s transition from the place most familiar to him or her to a new home environment can be helpful to both children and parents (who have ...

Parenting & Life Value Terms

Children are not in need of families through international adoption because of happy circumstances. These children need a family because their biological family was unable or unwilling to do so. Poverty, abuse and neglect are likely to have affected your child’s early development. These children may not have had positive social skills modeled for them ...

TBRI® Training And The Empowered To Connect Conference

As many of you have read, several MLJ staff members attended the TBRI® training in Texas earlier this year. I hope that all MLJ families will benefit from the blogs we have written over what we have learned. For me, TBRI® was more than part of my job, it was personal. I am an adoptive ...

What Is Your Child’s Attachment Style?

Attachment is such a big word in adoption. Is your child attached? Does your child have an attachment issue or even an attachment disorder? It seems like such a simple word, but it is really quite complicated. Attachment is the bond that a child has with their parents, or caregivers. Attachment occurs when a child ...

The Power of Choices and How To Share It

Sharing power is an essential principle of TBRI® (Purvis, K., Cross, Dr. R., & Hurst, J.R. [2012]. Trust-Based Relational Intervention: TBRI® Connecting Principles [Instructor Workbook]. Fort Worth, TX: TCU Institute of Child Development.). Children feel valued and safe knowing that their needs and wants are heard and taken into consideration. While parents must be “the ...

TBRI® Overview Of Connecting Principles

During TBRI® Training, Dr. Karen Purvis discussed five principles of connecting with a child from a hard place. The foundation for building a trusting relationship between a parent and child is through connection. TRBI® Training (Purvis, K.B. & Cross, D.R. (2013, September). TBRI® Professional Training Program presented by the TCU Insitute of Child Development. Training ...

Teaching Self-Regulation

Some mornings my youngest son goes through two or three pairs of socks before he finds a pair that does not bug him — he may have a couple sensory issues. This used to be more of an issue when he could not communicate his needs appropriately and socks ended up thrown across the room ...

Working Through Transitions

My son started Kindergarten this year and this was a big transition for our family. To transition to a new schedule we made adjustments over time. We didn’t start the new routine the week school started—that would’ve been chaos. Change takes time. We had to adjust bedtimes, eliminate naps, wake up earlier, and establish a ...
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